WE NEED TO PARTY MORE.

Introduction

In high school, parties like prom and homecoming were the highlight of my year.

I always made an effort to attend, even if I had to show up in jeans and a hoodie after a marching band competition.

In college, going to parties became a key part of the experience I wanted to create for myself.

I tried to meet as many people as I could and be present—on the dance floor, in the kitchen, or out on the patio.

These nights shaped who I am. 

For me, partying was never about beer pong (which I never liked). 

It was about connection, motivation, and choosing to live in the moment.

So it came as a surprise when I stopped going out after college.

Why I Stopped Partying

After graduating college, I stopped going out for two reasons: embarrassment and a misunderstanding of what rest actually looks like.

When I graduated college I had this initial panic of “what the hell am I going to do with my life?”

Because of this, I felt ashamed to be seen by others because I didn’t have a clear direction or goal. 

I had worked hard to get into college with a scholarship, earned two degrees, completed two internships, and still ended up back in my childhood bedroom.

It felt like a step backward.

Over time, through the support and wisdom of people I love, I started to feel more confident about my future and the person I’m becoming.

But even after regaining direction, I still didn’t go out.

I kept telling myself I was too tired.

And to be fair, I was.

Each week, I was moving my suitcase between McHenry and Elmhurst, working full-time, posting five videos a week, writing a blog post, going to the gym three times a week, and then driving back to McHenry again.

I thought because I was physically tired I should stay at home and bed rot in order to get my energy back. 

What I didn’t understand is that partying, when done with intention, can be its own kind of rest.

Going out might exhaust your body, but it restores your motivation.

A fun night with friends and family motivates you to keep going. 

It reminds you how much love there is in the world and why it’s worth it to keep trying.

This is what I realized this past Friday. 

What I Wore Out

Last Friday night, I took the train into downtown Chicago to meet my two friends Megan and Julia. 

I wanted to wear something loud and vibrant.

I’ve been trying to push my style beyond the corporate world, and I also believe club-attire needs to be formal again (blog post on that later).

So I wore a bright yellow shirt, a hot pink tie, and a pair of Dollar Tree sunglasses.

Back in high school, I used to wear loud sunglasses (PARTY GLASSES!) to help me get into a fun and carefree mood.

This energy shaped the night.

A Night Out in Chicago

At first, I was a little worried without a clear itinerary, but that ended up being what made the night so fun.

Megan and Julia brought a wonderful spirit of adventure that carried us from place to place.

We didn’t have a specific plan, but we had a specific goal: explore the city and celebrate each other.

We followed the party. 

We stopped to take pictures whenever we found the perfect lighting.

We ended up on the dance floor, and that felt like home.

I danced my heart out and even got a compliment from the DJ.

At one point, he played a song by Charli XCX I can’t remember so I yelled “PLAY MORE CHARLI WOO!” and guess what the DJ played five minutes later? 

“I Love It” by Icona Pop (Ft. Charli XCX)!

This is one of many moments I’ll be smiling about for years to come, which is why I think partying is fundamental to our wellbeing and why we need to party more.

WE NEED TO PARTY MORE.

I’m writing this on a Sunday morning, and I feel more excited for the week ahead than I have in a long time. 

That’s not an accident.

Human beings need community and partying gives me that. 

When you are in a room full of strangers that all share the same goal, to enjoy the moment, you don’t feel invisible, you feel released in communal effervescence.

Partying reminds us that life isn’t something you survive, it’s something you live.

So the next time you feel like spending a night in because you’re too tired I want you to remember… 

WE NEED TO PARTY MORE.

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